I can't practise when someone's around, dang it!
I dunno man. I just can't! It's been plaguing me for years.
Performing? No problem. Recording? Piece of cake. Practising within earshot of another human being? No can do! When I was younger, if anyone else was in the house, I'd hop on my bike and ride out to a deserted farm field and practise there. Nowadays I know better and I either wait until everyone leaves leave or confine myself to small room in the basement and use a mute. It's the only way I can get any peace of mind. Otherwise, I get all fidgety and lose focus, and forget my music, too.
What do I do? It's becoming a real handicap to be unable to focus without an isolation chamber to practise in, especially waiting for my lesson time or in an orchestra. So, do I try hypnosis? Force myself to practise in the living room? Drive everyone out of the house/ school/ rehearsal room with a flyswatter?
I like the flyswatter idea.
Honestly, from the bottom of my heart, I'm trying. I used to have really bad stage fright when I was a little tyke and I got over that with brute force method. But this just sticks. I hate having anyone hear me play anything not meant for the stage.
Maybe make a schedule with your family so that you can all agree on a time each day where you can play in a certain room when they're not home or in a different part of the house?
"I hate having anyone hear me play anything not meant for the stage."
When other people are around, even family, I use a practice mute, to not disturb them. Now, if only someone would invent a practice mute for singers,...
I had a similar complex, but mine is from my parents being angry at me for practicing (at the time acoustic guitar) in the same room/section of the house as them. I would be yelled at and told to stop.
When you undertake a hobby like the violin, there are some things you just have to get over. This is one of them. When I was a kid, going swimming at the city pool meant being seen naked by total strangers. Either you want to go swimming bad enough, or you don't. If you simply can't practice when others might hear, either you need to build yourself a very well-insulated practice booth, or you need a different hobby.
I have the same problem. I just can't practice when someone is nearby. I find it very annoying. I don't think it's because there is someone else hearing me, but I don't like having someone else in the very same room doing nothing but hearing my practice.
This is where being a returner comes in handy. When we were kids, there just weren't that many rooms in the house. Also, when you practice the piano, you pretty much do that in the living room because that's where the piano is.
Hi,one thing I thought of you could try is to have some 'white noise' (like a fan going) in your practise room.That way you wont be the only person/thing in the house making noise.Also it will help drown out external noise.
When practicing, remind the person present that you're trying to master what you could not heretofore. It will sound messy and out of tune but that is the reason to practice. It should improve. We practice at home, not on stage.
A fan in the practice room is a horrible idea. You will get a chopped sound from your music. Just play louder if the sound of other people is bothering you. If you don't want them to hear you set up the noise maker in their room.
maybe one of those apocryphal stories; a newspaper reporter asked Heifetz' neighbor what it was like to hear him practicing. The answer was something like; "I like coffee, but I wouldn't want to live next to a coffee factory".
@Andrew, when I was a kid I found I could concentrate very well on my piano practicing (in the living room, of course) when the dishwasher was running in the kitchen. The process of tuning out the noise made me focus.
Hi,I read the opinions on a fan in the practise room......I should have been more specific.....I have a small fan-heater on the floor.I can imagine how bad a ceiling fan would be,lol
Fans make it so you don't have to vibrato, which is a great bonus.
I have the same problem, and I always have, though I have been less able to deal with it recently as I could a couple of years ago.
I play OK at home alone. I play OK undercover of other people in the orchestra. I play like crap at lessons (was getting better but then she was out of town for 2 weeks and now I'm all self-conscious again!) and I have to put on my mute and hide in back rooms to warm up before orchestra rehearsal. Need to get over it LOL.
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