I have a 6 year old son who has violin lessons since about a year. But I feel uneasy whether his teacher is good for him, for several reasons:
- Sometimes after the lessons, my son feels angry and discouraged, for my impression the teacher has not a good feeling what is the right amount of challenge. I often need a couple of days of practising to reconstruct his motivation.
- He dramatizes bad habits which also puts a lot of pressure on me.
- He won't let me attend the lessons, claiming my son would be distracted (which might be true to a certain extent)
- I have the slight feeling that there is a sort of "competition" or "jealousy" between me and the teacher. On some occasions I have been active on organizing little children's concerts. I have also arranged small pieces for children's groups which we played at these concerts and have hoped that he would take up this in the lessons which he did not. It this perhaps indeed too much interference in the teaching by me? (I play piano and have a lot of chamber music experience, however I am not a professional and I don't play violin. However, since a year I learn observing and listening to my son's right practising).
- The teacher sometimes gossips on other students without anonymisation. He even does this when my little one is present and knows whom he is talking about.
On the other hand:
- As a mom, I might be biased. Perhaps some pressure is good for my child, and I might be too soft.
- Changing the teacher would imply to switch to private lessons. Currently, we are in the only music school of our village. The school offers the prospect of concerts, children's orchestras and chambers groups which I would not like to miss.
- I have cautiously asked my son what he would think about another teacher, but he only said that he would miss this one. Of course he can't imagine that another teacher would perhaps be different.
I would be curious to read comments on this. Thanks
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