I am new to this forum but I have been reading here a lot.
I am the mother of an advanced violin student (teenager), and I am worried about her teacher. I do not play violin myself, but piano.
My daughter started at the age of five and was always dedicated. Other teachers told me that she is very musical and gifted and that I always should support her playing (which I do). She always says she wants to become a very good violinist but does not want to become a professional. She practises one hour per day.
Last year her teacher whith whom she was for six years as told us that daughter should move on to a more advanced teacher. So I inquired and finally found teacher at conservatory. Daughter passed accession exam and teacher took her. This was last autumn. Teacher was told that she does not want to become a professional and that she practises one hour.
After two weeks the teacher told me that he took daughter only for trial, as he thinks she is not very able, especially with her motorics. Nevertheless, lessons went on. Soon after, daughter wanted to participate in a competition which was idea still by the previous teacher. Although new teacher initially approved this participation, he suddenly recommended daughter should refrain. But daughter participated and won the first price. Again I got compliments for my daugher's gifted talent which was in sharp contrast to new teacher's opinion.
Now teacher recommends that she should switch to viola. But she does not want that. Teacher does not teach viola himself, so this would necessitate a new teacher. Teacher and I talked and he repeated that skills of my daughter are limited, and usually he only teaches elite students. He would continue with her until he feels too uncomfortable.
Daughter does not know what teacher thinks about her. She wants to please him. She would feel hurt. She likes his lessons. But she often feels what people think and was uneasy about the viola suggestion ("does he want to get rid of me?") I witnessed some lessons and I think they are very good. But I feel very uncomfortable about the situation.
Why did this teacher take on my daughter?? Should I look for another teacher? How do I explain this to daughter and to people who recommended this teacher? Difficult situation!
Thanks for comments and recommendations.
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