So about two weeks ago, a teaching job suddenly landed in my lap. This of course caught me completely off guard, I've been playing for about 3 years, (suzuki book 6 and some extra work). My payment is that in exchange for 1 hour of violin, I'd receive math, Japanese and Spanish tutoring/help. My student is a 5 years old little girl who is, in a word, impossible.
For the first week, I tried teaching her the proper basic, such as stance and how to take care of the violin and such, only to realize half way in that the VSO is too big for her. But I manage to convince her parent to spend a little more than $60 for her violin and find a proper size. (She's a small-ish 5 years old, so a 1/8 should last at least some years. Given the fact that my medium size 9 years old cousin is also playing a 1/8 in her school orchestra).
But anyway, the violin didn't come on time last week due to the freeze over of North America. So instead of teaching her the stance, I went over to the bow hold. Now bow hold and stances are very important to me. My first teacher, who was around my age now (16), back about nearly a decade ago drills it very well into my head. So well that after a 7 years long hiatus on my part, I still have the best "aesthetically pleasing figure" when playing.
But here comes the trouble, the little girl, who I will now to refer to as K, is very...difficult. Now I don't remember the exact detail, but I'm pretty sure that it didn't take me that long at all to master the dummy pencil hold and transition to the bow (maybe two days at most, possibly less) I pull with all of my memory might to remember how my teacher once taught me and transfer it onto the new generation. But after about 5 minute of half-hearted attention, K broke down crying (apparently this happen a lot so her parents wasn't fazed, but this is my first job here! so I freaked!) The conversation when something like this.
K:(*through well practiced sparkling tears*)
"But I only want to play for one minute!" (direct quote)
Me: "But you can't just "play for one minute""!
K: "But my hand hurt!"
(*I saw her monkey climb upstairs, so this girl undoubtedly have very strong hand muscle*)
Me: (*trying to not have a freak break-down*) But K! We've only been at it for five minute, and you didn't even hold it for that long yet! Come on, you can do it!
K: I want my baby sister!!!
(*Baby sister mysteriously disappeared*)
Me: (*head bowing, practically begging*) Come on, you can do it. Let's try again."
(*at this moment, I can hear the gear in my head spinning frantically. I have A LOT of baby cousins, but they're so...obedient*)
K:(*grudgingly hold up the plastic straw*) ok..
(*K merely let her hand goes limp and give me a look that could kill. After another three minute of getting to nowhere*)
Me:"K, are you sure you want to play the violin? If you don't, no one is forcing you to. I can talk to your mom if you really don't want to play"
K: "I want to play"
Me: "Then you have to take it seriously"
K: "But I only want to play for one minute!"
(*By now, I am sure that K have the impression that by merely pulling the bow across the string, the violin will automatically produce Perlman quality playing*)
So there's my trouble, next Sunday is when I greet K again. By then, I would like to learn more, as much as I can, on dealing/teaching with difficult kid. K parents' are very understanding and is well aware of K waterwork. I also shown both of them the bowhold so that they can (hopefully) get it through K by the time Sunday rolls around.
If you have any, and I mean ANY advice at all, please throw them at me, I am desperate to be as best of a first time teacher as I can.
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