Last year I was contacted by an adult beginner who wanted me to teach her how to play. It was her New Year's resolution to learn so I accepted her request and I devoted myself to helping as much as I could. She was an ideal student, and she took every bit of advice very seriously. Her bow arm developed wonderfully, her left hand positioning was so good that I was able to start her on shifting far sooner than I would have expected. No one can correctly guess when she started to play because she is such a natural player as well as a diligent, faithful and intelligent student. I'm not patting myself on the back for this. She deserves full credit for how well her playing has developed.
At the end of the last lesson she told me suddenly that due to financial reasons she has to quit. Not wanting to lose a treasured student and a friend, I offered her what I called a "full-ride scholarship" to study with me. She refused my offer, thanked me, gave me a hug and left. So I'm wondering: would it be inappropriate or strange of me to call and see if she changed her mind? I really don't want to come across as some kind of creep. I just cared an awful lot about helping her and I can't just suddenly stop caring. Before anyone gets any wrong ideas, I was always strictly professional with her. I do think of her as a friend but first and foremost she was a student. I always felt that we were working together to build her technique and develop her playing bit by bit. Now that collaboration is gone and I feel a loss. Any thoughts or am I just being strange?
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