My question is this: how do you handle, especially given the current economic conditions, parents and students who demonstrate rudeness and lack of integrity?
Most of my students are kindly and friendly and I just love them; they treat me with respect and we work together very well for the education of their kids (or themselves). But what do you do -- by that I mean, where do you set limits -- with respect to behaviors which are not kindly and respectful?
Of course, the real issue is that the person who is not respectful in lessons is that way, in general, and one wonders: do you have an obligation to show them a better way of interacting, or in a fit of exasperation after trying to show them, just ask them if they would find another teacher?
Galamian talked about this, that you have to be patient with students since they develop at different rates. But the issue of plain, ordinary manners, is a different issue, I think. Sometimes potentially good players have very bad manners.
This is a different issue than students' behavior, but is an issue of common . For instance, if I give a gift, I do expect at least an email thank-you note. I recently mailed 10 of my books, for free, to internet "friends," people whom I had "met" online and wanted to develop friendships with. To my utter amazement and disappointment, only one of these "friends" acknowledged the receipt of my book, and in each case (less that one), I had to email them to ask them if they had received the book? And two of them said they would review the book on Amazon, and neither one did.
Am I being too picky? I'm at the point where I just really don't want to even associate with people who behave like that. Life is too short.
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