my kid almost always comes out from violin lesson and laments: gee, i did so bad. well, as much as i agree with her that with each lesson new issues are identified and that the focus is essentially entirely on new problems, it sounds to me she is looking for a pat on the shoulders to acknowledge her effort for having attempted to tackle the old problems, before being bombarded with new ones. i know what works for her, with school and with golf. when she is happier, more confident and more relaxed, her mind is sharper and is often capable of exceeding expectations. so after each lesson i have to bring her back up from the abyss by telling some sweet little lies,,, :):):)
some disciplines are known for hard training,,, military, medicine, law, to name just a few. the thinking is that if we owe our success to the hard training, it will be an inevitable rite of passage for you as well.
with classical music, in my limited exposure, with some old school trained teachers, it seems that hard training could also be the norm and that tradition is to carry on. hate to generalize, but the newer generation tends to buy into this fun driven perspective, both the teachers and the students/parents, esp in the usa where the emphasis is on giving credit for effort or trying or simply being physically there:) at times, when clearly not even bare minimum effort is put forth, to preserve self esteem, we still say: good job! or, that dress is beautiful!
i know what to say when my wife asks me to comment on her dresses:) but it is inconceivable for children to demand how violin teachers conduct their biz. the students essentially are at teachers' mercy. old dogs can learn new tricks:), but should they bother?
as students how did/do you manage this situation where what is good for you violin wise may not feel that great personally? as teachers, do you choose to focus on problems and skip the little talks, or do you try to strike a balance?
ps. this is not a complaint about teachers in general or in particular, but a discussion on differences in style or perhaps different psychological approaches.
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