So, I read an article in the WSJ this morning entitled, "Under Pressure", about parents who put pressure on their kids to be the best. Now, my dh wasn't saying I do that with our oldest concerning violin but he still thinks I emphasize the violin too much in his life. Dh isn't into classical music and he asked if my son really needs to be taking lessons anymore.
Our son has been playing for 8 years (he's 14). He takes one lesson a week and is a member of a university orchestra, a community orchestra, as it were. He practices maybe 30 minutes to an hour a day (and never practices his orchestra pieces! Grr). However, he does keep getting opportunities to play/perform. His orchestra has at least 6 performances this fall and he'll do one solo piece with his teacher. He just did a wedding last week where he was the one in charge of the strings players that turned out nicely. He also just got an opportunity to continue teaching some elementary aged school children for pay but we're not sure if he'll be able to do it. (And he'd get a ride to and from the school) He also plays in our church youth worship group monthly and has rehearsals for that. Lastly, he plays in a paid string quartet that does maybe 3-4 events a year. (easy stuff) Lastly, he's attended a local, one week long, chamber music camp for 2 years in a row. His private lessons are mostly being paid for by a particular organzation, his orchestra is free, and the chamber camp is almost free since he's a member of the orchestra. So, our costs for violin at this point are very reasonable.
Dh and I are almost positive that our son won't be a professional musician but I still think my son could be someone who will have his job and still be a musician on the side because he loves it. I'm a mom but I've been able to be a part time jazz dancer until recently for over 20 years because it's something I love.
So, do you think I should begin to tell my son no on some of the music activities he does, particularly if he's not going to major in music? Is my dh right in that I emphasize music too much? My son has other activities (baseball and chess) but it does seem music has taken a bigger part of his life this year, or at least recently.
I'd love feedback from other parents or even other young musicians.
This discussion has been archived and is no longer accepting responses.
Violinist.com is made possible by...
Discover the best of Violinist.com in these collections of editor Laurie Niles' exclusive interviews.