The other day my oldest announced, "I'm going to be thirty this year, but I only feel like I'm nineteen." That and the recent thread on adult beginners has brought back to mind something I've noticed off and on over the years - the, often great, variation between a person's chronological age, and how they answer the question 'How old do you see yourself?' When I ask myself this question the answer is, about 18 to 20. My wife says the same about herself. I first asked my mother this question a couple of decades ago, and at that time her answer was 18. Now, in her eighties she says, "I'm more tired than I used to be, but I guess maybe 20."
It isn't only family members who answer similarly. Because I find this an interesting topic, I've asked a lot of people this question over the years, and I seem to get the same answer from nearly everyone who is above the age of around 30. The only common factor seems to be that all are active at least one thing beyond work, and most have a great many interests. Not everyone tells me they feel younger than their last birthday, of course. But those who say they feel at least as old as their last birthday, if not older, seem to have few interests beyond their primary occupation.
So, how old do you the adult beginners out there see yourselves? Is maybe a small part of the reason we're willing to take up the unusual task of learning the violin, something most of 'the outside world' apparently see as something for children to do and think we ought to be 'acting our age,' is because internally we don't see ourselves as old?
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