I have a student who has been with me for several years. She always showed great self-motivation, was well-prepared for lessons, seemed to really enjoy playing (and even considered herself to be quite a star). Now, she is 10 years old, and things have gone quite downhill. She has developed a bad left-hand position that is preventing us from moving forward: she is collapsing her wrist and claims it is suddenly the only way she can play in tune. She also refuses to learn to slur note, explaining to me that slurs sound bad and are pointless. She has suddenly forgotten how to read music. She argues with my every suggestion. I can tell she cries before every lesson, and sometiems breaks down over the smallest things, like an out-of-tune note. This has been going on for over 6 months now. I have tried to keep things light and fun, let her choose what she would like to learn, encouragement. I have tried to talk with her mom, who just says she hopes htis is a phase. I have even tried some tough love. I am at my limit. I can start to feel my own blood-pressure rise 15 minutes beofer the lesson. I can't stand the whining, crying, and excuses anymore. Here is my question: am I giving up too easily if I drop the student? it is obvious to me that she is NOT enjoying herself. I get the impression that mom won't let her quit. We are literally going nowhere but backwards.
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