V.com weekend vote: is your significant other a musician or non-musician?
October 20, 2007 at 12:10 AM
Are you married to your accompanist? Is the violist in your quartet your significant other?
Or are you romantically attached to an non-musician? Let's see!
When I was in a string quartet in college, I was dating the violist. And he was the only one I didn't see when I went back for my reunion this year--I had a great talk with both the 2nd violinist and the cellist.
My husband isn't a musician, but it seems to be working out fine. We just celebrated our 10th anniversary last month :)
From Yixi Zhang
Posted on October 20, 2007 at 3:34 AM
I don’t mean to be splitting hair but it took me a few second to decide the answer because I’m not sure if I’m a musician myself. If by musician it means one is performing music professionally, then I’m not a musician and maybe I shouldn’t be voting. But if it means one is actively engaging in some type of music making on daily or regular basis, then my answer is yes. My husband is a scholar in ancient Chinese literature and he teaches Chinese to Chinese kids in a Canadian university even though he is not a Chinese himself. He is not keeping up with his piano, but he is a serious but frustrated composer. He is also much more knowledgeable in music and musicology than I am. So I voted yes.
From Karin Lin
Posted on October 20, 2007 at 6:30 AM
Are we talking professional musician, or anyone with musical ability? My hubby sings and plays a few instruments, but doesn't call himself a musician.
I would say either professional or serious amateur.
Married to another violinist.
I met my wife through the band that I formed 30 years ago and we've been playing together ever since.
We became romantically attached about 5 years later. Why did it take so long ? Well girlfriends I could get fairly easily at that time and lose them just as easily. Now a good fiddler, that was something else. I had to be sure that this was for real, couldn't stand the thought of falling out over a lovers tiff and so losing the best fiddler I've ever played with.
We've been married 26 years this year so I suppose I must have made the right choice. Curiously I think going out to perform most Saturday evenings has kept us together, we've had so much fun together over the last 30 years we have that additional common bond.
My ex-husband is a professional clarinetist. My current special man is not a musician, but he enjoys and attends many musical events-always has.
My hubby is not a musician, he is a web-tech computer-guy online journalist.
And it's a good thing, isn't it? ;)
From Jodi B
Posted on October 20, 2007 at 4:18 PM
My husband and I were in the same music theory class. Our teacher said the first day, "Look at the person on the left and then the right.. this person will be your spouse."
Yeah right... I thought. Turns out he was majoring in engineering and had taken theory as an elective. :)
She used to play the guitar. I think she also has every piece of classical music every recorded, including every opera I ever heard of. She is very supportive of me learning violin, encouraging in spite of how dreadfully I play/sound. When I am not sure about notation marks I call her and ask her about it, usually before I email my teacher :)
From Josh Cohen
Posted on October 20, 2007 at 7:17 PM
When preparing for a major concert my focus is on the music and I have little space for a relationship. Once the performance is done, it is thrilling to have someone close with whom you can share the excitement and experience with. My ex was not a musician, and it sometimes got a little frustrating that, after a month of focusing on the music and not on her, she was ready to kill me, and the last thing she was interested in was to share anything with me after a concert! My current relationship is with a musician (flute and ww), and although I am learning to include her while leading up to a concert, she at least understands where my head is before and after (as I understand her when she is preparing a concert!)
Married to a pianist these nine years...however, he is not my accompanist...believe it or not. Weird how that works out.
my hubby is a drummer and producer. I find it's really important to me that we work together. I need to have that common bond with my partner. the work can be *very* challenging but it makes me that much more proud of the finished product (my band's second cd was recorded and produced by him). I love listening back and being impressed and amazed at how freakin talented he is and how good we are together.
Yup! My fiance is a saxophonist, bass player, composer, songwriter and music producer.
It is great that he is a professional musician because he helps me improve my tone and with music theory. I have only been playing the violin for a year, but he has been a professional musician since he was in high school.
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