My 7 y/o son sometimes has tears in his eyes when playing.
I have two boys playing the violin. They both play very well but one of them , the oldest (7yo), is very moved by his own playing. While practicing Kuchler Op.11 for example he sometimes has tears in his eyes (and I am no tiger mom screaming at him...;-) )
Of course this is very positive I guess and it does take me by the "kishke" too I have to say.
Have you had any such experiences as children or with children?
Maybe he doesn’t want to practice. I used to cry too, at lessons with a strict teacher in my youth, or when my mom was telling me I had to practice.
Roman, it's not that at all! He is moved by the music. He looks at me and smiles with tears in his eyes.
It's a special child. Maybe. Make sure you continue to offer him opportunities to see great inspiring art, not only music but also teach him to look at paintings and sculpture. And eventually to read the best literature. He will appreciate it.
Maybe its the rosin :/
As long as it's not like Johnny here:
Is he forgetting to blink?
Man, I wish I could feel like that. I'm sort of dead inside.
So what did the boy say? Have you asked him? No one asked me when I was a child so I walked away with the notion that emotion was wrong, it was something to be hidden, and not talked about.
I was very emotional as a kid too, easily moved by music and strong emotions, so I can relate. Eventually as I got older I gained more control of my outward emotions, but I still have passion for many of the things that moved me. So, I think the suggestion above to expose the child to as much great art as possible is a great one, as it will probably have more of an impact. It may also help them to learn how to control and channel their passions more too.
He's disappointed that his instrument is not very good. He wants to hear quality sound but his instrument is holding him back, hence he is crying. Just kidding of course. We can all make assumptions but only he knows the truth -- so ask him :)
My child played Kuchler Op.15 a few years ago and she came up with a hilarious background story to go with it because she couldn't stand it and she had to be really creative to make it palatable to her.
Eden, my niece was moved to tears by music before she could talk. She was always a natural when it came to expression. She just finished her bachelors in performance last year.
I was the one unemotional kid out of the 15 in my little ensemble when we played some sad piece that I forgot it's name
"She likes operas enough to stay awake to the end but her reaction often is, "I don't get it. This story makes no sense.""
See this video:
Aww, I like hearing this story, Eden. Your son feels art strongly. Very cool. (Although, not necessarily an easy route to travel, being this sensitive.)
Andre - wow, just watched your Christian Ferras link. Incredible. Such a moving performance to watch. (The Sibelius VC 2nd movement always slays me anyway, even as a listener; I don't see how anyone could perform it dispassionately.)
I wonder too if it has to do with not blinking. I've noticed too that when I'm listening to people intently, I sometimes forget to blink, and my eyes tear.
My 4,5 years old son reacts on violin sounds too. I thinks at some point the sound is in resonance with his body. And this physical vibration, creates some fillings. And for sure- he likes high tones (A, better E strings, better in the 3d position), and he is not so exited when he has to practice on G and D in first. In contrast to him, I am not big fan of violin or soprano, but I do enjoy bariton and cello.
As an uptight Brit I don't weep (stiff upper lip and all that, what!) but I play music because it moves me profoundly and I want it to move others.
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