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Pauline Lerner


January 14, 2010 at 5:38 AM

I wrote about a man who was very special to me in my blog of November 17, 2009.

"I met him at a jam session and fell in love with him at first sight. Within a few weeks, he fell in love with me, too. It was wonderful having someone I loved, who also loved me, to play music with. We always had music playing on CDs or Internet radio. We had violins (my primary instrument) and mandolins (his primary instrument) scattered around the living room, and whenever one or both of us liked the music that was playing, we'd pick up an instrument and jam."


"Then we broke up and lost contact with each other. Several years went by. Sometimes I'd get some news about him from a mutual friend. Sometimes it was sad news:  lung cancer."

Today I got sadder news:  Cancer took his life on December 31, 2009.  This evening I've been looking at photos of him and reading people's comments about him on Facebook.  I've been listening to recordings of bluegrass gospel songs and playing along.  Here is one we both loved to listen to and play along with.


RIP, my beloved friend.  You never knew how many people's lives you enriched with your love and your music.

From Tom Holzman
Posted on January 14, 2010 at 2:00 PM

I am sorry for your loss and one that probably touched many people.  His memory will live on as an inspiration to those who knew him and benefitted from his friendship.

From Anne-Marie Proulx
Posted on January 14, 2010 at 7:49 PM

Very sorry...


From Theodor Taimla
Posted on January 14, 2010 at 9:01 PM

Yes, this has touched many hearts -- including mine.


From Pauline Lerner
Posted on January 14, 2010 at 11:01 PM

Thank you all for your emotional support.

My blog originally contained  a Youtube clip, which disappeared.  I just put it back.  It expresses my feelings in a way that only music can.

From Karen Allendoerfer
Posted on January 15, 2010 at 8:28 PM

 Pauline, I'm so sorry for your loss.

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