Things to consider teaching your child:
December 18, 2012 at 9:05 PMAs with many people in the U.S., I've been thinking over the tragic events that occurred in Connecticut last Friday, and the culture that fed into that event. Shinichi Suzuki, having lived through the violent first part of the 20th century, was driven by the idea of putting violins into children's hands instead of guns, to help them create beauty in their lives and hearts. I think it's a worthy goal. And so I came up with a list of things we can teach our children to help them find useful activity and seek beauty and wonder in the world.
Things to consider teaching your child:
Playing the violin
Feel free to add to this list.
From Patrick TinneySome of our favorites:
Posted on December 18, 2012 at 10:30 PM
Sorry I'm trying to remember the things I used to enjoy and forgot
And since I can never decide between Celtic, polka and mariachi in addition to violin
concertina or accordion
From Mendy SmithMaking fudge & brownies!!!!
Posted on December 19, 2012 at 1:33 AM
From Krista MoyerI'll add:
Posted on December 19, 2012 at 1:32 AM
From Andrei PricopeThings to teach children:
Posted on December 19, 2012 at 2:43 AM
- self-control / anger management
- how to compromise (for the common/greater good)
- consequences / causality
- finding and following superior role models
- manners / social graces
- attention to detail
- deferred gratification
- forward thinking
- goal-setting and planning
- critical thinking
- feedback analysis
- synthesis of information
- lateral thinking
- initiative and drive
- asking (oneself) better questions
- learning as a life-time activity
- time management
- resource management (time, effort, energy, materials)
- maximizing opportunities and resources
- clarity, organization
- open-mindedness to differences
- integrity of convictions
- savoring the moment but planning for the future
- effort -> results -> rewards
- honest assessment
- quality more important than quantity or speed
- the urgency of important matters
- thinking big, but acting now and here, for improvement
- the importance of (self-)education, of being knowledgeable and cultured
- respect for the achievements of others (incl. those before us)
- how to pay a compliment, and receive one
- how to admit defeat gracefully
- not to give up on themselves (and others) too easily
- to respect (any!) hard work
- that good enough isn't, that effort is expected, and success and self-esteem are earned, not given
- proper use of language as an expression of superior thinking
- good hygiene
- decent penmanship
- the importance of silence, solitude, (self-)reflection
- the difference between opinion and fact, between wishful thinking and evidence
- the power of a kind word, a smile, a hug, a pat on the back
- the power of an insult, of bullying, of indifference
- to not take people, relationships, resources for granted
- the importance of being right over being popular
- the importance of privacy, dignity, identity, honor, fairness
- the importance of long-lasting positive impact and influence over the immediate, the material, the monetary
No matter how, no matter where, the sooner the better,
let's teach kids CHARACTER...
From Marty DaltonTeach them the sactity and fragility of human life.
Posted on December 19, 2012 at 3:02 AM
From Laurie NilesThis is really more a list of concrete activities to teach them. Actions speak louder than words, after all.
Posted on December 19, 2012 at 3:32 AM
From Kevin KeatingThe list of simple joys in life is endless...
Posted on December 19, 2012 at 3:44 AM
From Andrei PricopeI got it... I'm just of the opinion that we teach children, not music; skills, not songs; character, not activities...
Posted on December 19, 2012 at 4:13 AM
Needless to say, please feel free to remove my list, Laurie! Thank you...
From Anne-Marie ProulxSpend (invest) time with good friends... not bad ones.
Posted on December 19, 2012 at 4:57 AM
Cook with friends
(I mean, there is so much more than the usual movies, food and shoping. Not telling this is bad, just that human bonds existed before these activities :)
Also, it doesn't have to cost a lot of $ either...
People are more and more isolated nowadays...
From Tim YipI love the list! As a boy, drawing comics and reading Calvin and Hobbes was actually really meaningful to me. Another great activity was making home movies with friends!
Posted on December 19, 2012 at 5:05 AM
From Thessa TangSpelunking? :) Is that the same as caving? Spelunking sounds more fun & sinister at the same time.
Posted on December 19, 2012 at 2:27 PM
How about making jelly? All the kids in school & church LOVE jelly & no one's allergic to it. Perfect for parties & children with multiple allergies [or anaphylaxis like mine].
Last week upon my daughter's request, I taught her how to draft a funny-memorable, punchy and yet persuasive speech which audiences will enjoy.
Pragmatically, not for fun, wonder or beauty, but useful for university/college, & also at her request, I showed her how to make rice soup noodles (with greens) in less than 5 minutes.
My teenager who seem perpetually hungry [especially in winter] LOVE learning how to "cook quick & easy" stuff. It's very satisfying - not just for the stomach.
From Brian Van Eatonfor my part...A foreign language, The Westminster Shorter Catechism, The bible, Piano, Violin, the love of music, The love of serving others, The love and sacrifice of the one who was Just, dying for those of us who are un-just.
Posted on December 19, 2012 at 4:25 PM
The importance of family, and the love of learning and reading.
From Laurie NilesAndrei, I agree! We teach children, not "violin" or "teaching points" or "state standards." And when we teach children to do things, we try to instill all those ideas you mention. After all, if one teaches violin or tennis or anything with abuse, condescension and rigidity, then one fails with the larger lessons you mention.
Posted on December 19, 2012 at 3:50 PM
From Saagar AsnaniDon't forget PLAY VIOLA!!!
Posted on December 19, 2012 at 8:33 PM
From Paul Deckteach them how to:
Posted on December 19, 2012 at 9:28 PM
Tune their violin
It is through the appreciation of these very small tasks that are tedious / repetitive that they will approach a zen-like humility.
From Thessa TangI once went on a Listening Skills course for a couple of months which totally converted me to listening as a focussed, deliberate activity and a concrete skill, so yes listening is a very healthy activity, well worth learning still, sharing and considering, to teach our children. Not just having to role model it which is the hardest bit.
Posted on December 21, 2012 at 3:36 PM
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