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Wise words as always, Buri. Bravo! Yes, Buri. Thank you. I need to see to #6.
Also, who is Gollum? Greetings,
Lord of the Rings,
Hobbit who goes bad?
Cheers,
Buri
Maybe its just my memory. Hey Buri. About midnight..just got home from a day of symphony. And 8 hours of driving for the joy. Your message really hits home. I wias just thinking about how it is so hard to have a relationship and "dedicate" to violin like it is thought is needed, because practicing is largely a private affair. I'm try8ing to involve my husband in my music, let him understand what it is like to be a violinist. But it is hard to get across.

The thing about orchestra is that it is not something you do alone. There is no other way I could have survived today. There is no other reason I would drive 8 hours and practice 6 in one day for any other reason. I have found that being an orchestral musician, NOT within the confines of the institution, which realizes the point of the role of music in my life.

My musical life was a complete wreck until I fell in love with my husband. I thought it would take time away from what I "needed to be doing". Horse boogey.

I could write pages and pages in response to your post, btu I will refrain because I'dr ather fall into bed with my shoes on...

JW

Buri,
I saw your post after the interviews with the six finalists of the hannover competition, & so it makes even more sense.
I think what you say linked to the picture Nikita painted when they were asked to think 10 years into the future and he imagined he was definately not married, but lived in a large house with his family and gave "not too many concerts", perhaps as chamber musician, because he didn't want to lose the joy of playing.
There's a healthy young man, at least on paper!! Hi Buri,

Nice thoughts. I think that life is about balance. Also, impossible dreams is not an objective. That Nietzschean thought leads to the depression that afflicts many since it engenders perfectionism, which is more of a problem than anything. Like in many things, balance is good, but also enthousiasm. Many times, we think that something is missing in our lives when it is not. The desire for what is unavailable doesn't make it better. Sometimes we hold on to things that we don't need.

In music, the negative is at the centre of much. But mostly, it is that the end result is more valued than its components. Every day, I pass by a framed photo given to me by my godfather as a graduation present from my doctorate. Below, it says "Success is a journey, not a destination." That thought governs most of what I do. Not all is fair. That too. And I think that accepting some things as having a part in life helps too. There is a lot to be found in acceptance. Change also is important, and accepting that things don't need to be perfect and not resisting change really helps...

Some rambling in early morning here...

Cheers!

Surely friends must come before cleaning the house. ;) my friends won"t come unless I clean the house... That's why you go to their house...

Besides, you won't have to do the dishes after.

my friends eat off the floor. Couldn't agree more. The thing I find hard is the balance; what do you do if friendship and practice are in conflict? My daughter's first violin teacher is an example. He was a cellist and after two years or at the end of suzuki book 4, he suggeted that she go to a violinist for her lessons. They got along very well, and I figure that was as important as making progress. We begged him to stay for another two years against his wishes. In her sixth year of playing violin, my daughter is still trying to catch up with basics.