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People often feel awkward about what to say to someone who has lost someone. Having lost my father 2 years ago, I will say that I really appreciated it when people simply acknowleged the loss, "I'm sorry to hear you lost your father" etc.

It is simple and seems so ordinary, but it is still nice and I appreciated it.

Yes, to what Bill said. And, further, to ask "how are you doing?" months down the road, is usually appreciated by a grieving person. That's when the shock has worn off, the flood of concern and well-wishing has subsided, and now it's just the griever and his/her loss. If you've never been there, it's hard to comprehend how devastating it continues to be, long after everyone assumes you should have "gotten over it" by now.

"You've been in my thoughts," is a nice thing to say/hear. Poor woman... a rough road ahead for her.

How sad, Bram. She needs her friends, family, and music now. I'm glad you gave her your condolences right away. I agree that it is important to ask her how she feels later, too, when the shock wears off and most people will not continue to ask her how she is doing. When my father died, everyone who worked in my office spoke to me and expressed sympathy, and it really helped to know that people cared. I especially appreciated hearing from people who obviously felt awkward talking to me about it. Somehow it meant a little more to me. You can tell her that I extend my sympathy to her. I hope that music will help her in her loss.